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Monday, July 17, 2006

It's Final

It was such a relief to finally read the words, "plaintiff shall have visitation". Yes, visitation. No more half weeks. No more having to tell him, "no, I'm sorry. Your not going to see your mom today. Your grandparents will pick you up and we think you'll see your mom on Monday." No more picking him up on Wednesday and asking about his week with his mom only to hear him respond, "I didn't see my mom this week. I spent the night at my grandma's," with sadness in his voice. No more phone calls asking us to pick him up early because she has to work, or go to school or go shopping. All much more important things to do than spend time with your child.

Finally he will have stability. He will live in a home filled with the things he likes and enjoys, not things that are forced upon him or told he will like and enjoy. Finally he will live in an environment where he can express his thoughts without censor. Finally he will be in a place where kids are welcomed and bragged about. Not one where he will be made felt like he doesn't belong. Finally.

Of course, if you asked his mom I'm sure she would tell you that she raised him herself with no help, even though the majority of his time with his mom was spent at a grandparent's house or aunt's house or some random stranger's house. Anyone she could get a hold of in order to spend the least amount of time with him as possible. She claims to be responsible for all he's learned in his five years. Which is amazing. It's amazing to me she can teach a child to read and write in only five hours a week. It's a shame she's keeping this gift to herself. She should become a teacher. With this sort of magic children would only need to attend school a few hours a month rather than the 20 or so days they go now. What a shame.

But finally, her lies will no longer be a part of his life. Her self serving rants will have no effect on him. He will be with us, except for every other weekend and Wednesdays on the off weeks. At which time he will probably be with a grandparent. Finally.

7 Comments:

  • I'm so glad he'll be able to be comfortable and happy. Every child so desperately needs that!

    By Blogger Queen of Ass, at 7:15 AM, July 18, 2006  

  • I think this is awesome Jolynn. You and Brian are great parents. He's lucky that the two of you care for him so much. And stability is so important. Feeling like you don't really have a 'home' is wrong.

    By Blogger InterstellarLass, at 8:44 AM, July 18, 2006  

  • It's wonderful he will be surrounded by love in your family, Jolynn. If every child had that opportunity, just think what an awesome world this would be.

    xoxo

    By Blogger Karen, at 10:37 AM, July 18, 2006  

  • Great great news!

    By Blogger truckdriver_sefl, at 12:48 PM, July 18, 2006  

  • That's great news :D

    By Blogger Nikki-ann, at 3:08 PM, July 18, 2006  

  • Congrats!

    By Blogger Sheets, at 6:51 AM, July 19, 2006  

  • OK, Jolynn....

    I'm so glad that things are settled with him. Kids are resilient, but not to that level, not to that type of stuff. And we adults are stupid for thinking that 'it won't bother them', or 'they can't tell the difference'. Because it does and they can.

    So at the same time i'm awfully glad things are ironed out, and he'll have stability & predictability in his life that he's needed, i'm sitting with tears in my eyes.

    Both because it's finally over, & he can rely on his life now. And that he had to go through so much to get there.

    And your family is richer and better for him being there.

    shayla

    By Blogger shayla, at 3:38 PM, July 19, 2006  

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